Not good enough – has the thought “I am not enough” ever crossed your mind? I hear this a lot from my clients. And I think we all carry this negative thought in various degrees.
You might feel like you’re awesome in one area of life, and feel not so great at another. And in that instance, there may be underlying negative thoughts of unworthiness. Which then makes you want to strive harder and harder, wanting to be better, do more. Which ultimately drives you nuts.
Does any of this resonate with you? Kinda, sorta, maybe?
Were you raised by mean chimpanzees or loving polar bears? Actually, it doesn’t matter. If you have to take special effort for self-care, or you have to try hard to praise and compliment your ownself, there’s a bit of a problem. Do you ever wonder why we humans find it so friggin hard to love ourselves?
Why do we have to depend on others to see the goodness in us? Well, it has to do with our childhood programming.
Dealing with guilt of not meeting expectations is something we all experience. If you’re human, you have experienced guilt at some point or the other. But just to make sure, you have experienced guilt right? Emotions like guilt usually gets conditioned in to our subconscious at a very young age, with not meeting parents expectations. Which then we carry forward in our lives in various forms, leading to not meeting our own expectations, and then never even trying to take the kind of massive action that leads to big success, out of fear of not meeting those dreams.
Exhausted, beat up and groggy. Yep, those 3 words are right on point to describe how I feel today.
Since January 1st, I have been waking up at 4 am. I follow my blissful morning routine, grab a power pack pre-workout snack and head to the gym. I’m in pre-season training for the Chicago marathon and things have been going really well.